The Martha and Mary's Of Today

Posted by Ginger~~Enchanting Cottage

Luke 10:38-42

Martha and Mary offered hospitality to their friend Jesus,
a respected but somewhat controversial Jewish rabbi. Mary sat and
listened to him as he talked, but Martha objected to the fact that she was
left with all the work. Jesus told Martha not to worry about small things,
but to concentrate
on what was important.

Are you a Martha or a Mary? I don't like to admit this but I was a Martha. We would have guest over and I would be in the kitchen doing dishes even before they left. I would put house work before my family, and I would get upset if someone left a dirty dish in the sink. As I get older I realize now how wrong I was, and how much I missed out on. I made a promise to myself not to be like that with our friends now, and not worry about if our grandchildren make our house a bit messy. I have grown not to worry about the messy stuff and that it's a blouse that I wear not a super hero cape. I love the Lord and I am so thankful for all the blessings that he has given me and that includes every mess our 3 grandchildren make, and every guest we have over for dinner.

My children use to call me a drill Sargent but I was not aware of it until they had already moved out. I don't want that to be a nickname that is past down. I want my family to remember me as a woman who loved the Lord not someone who got upset because there was a dirty dish in the sink.

God Bless,
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I so relate to you, Ginger. I was also more of a Martha in my younger years, but now, I know what is more important and the better thing...time spent with the Lord and with the people in my life. My mom used to tell me that my house would still be standing when I was dead and gone, and now that I'm older, I know that is true. My house is in better repair than I am, but my spirit is healthier than ever before.

God bless,

October 11, 2009 at 3:13 AM

I really love this post. I was also a Martha for many years. In the last few years I have noticed slowly that I have become Mary. I try not to sweat the little things anymore and just relax and enjoy.

God bless you Anne

October 11, 2009 at 4:08 AM

I am definitely Mary.

October 11, 2009 at 5:54 AM

I'm a little bit in between...I know I don't want to miss out on special things but still wants things in order... :) But I think as more seasons come and as we age, priorities change and suddenly, those things that are not important do not matter anymore...God bless you and may you have a great week ahead sister Ginger.

October 11, 2009 at 9:04 AM

Great post. I've been reminding myself about this story often lately so that I don't get upset about the temporary things and instead focus on the eternal.

October 11, 2009 at 9:39 AM

We have all been Martha at one time or another, haven't we? Thank you for a great post!

October 11, 2009 at 10:02 AM

You are growing spiritually and emotionally. This is a great post.

October 11, 2009 at 10:17 AM

Oh Ginger, how I relate to this post. I have definitely been a Martha for the better part of my life. Looking back it was just simply the way I was raised. A "good" wife, mother, or really just a woman, kept her house immaculate. And I wanted so to be just that. But as I grew and matured in Him, I have let go of all those feelings and now rarely touch a dish or straighten a thing till everyone is LONG gone. And when my 8 grandchildren are altogether, trust me "messy" is a mild understatement. But my joy at their sweet spirits and their excitement at being at Grandma's can't be matched. Thanks for sharing this. I think there might be a lot of us reformed Martha's. Have a great day. Blessings to you, Debbie

October 11, 2009 at 10:32 AM

I relate here with being a Martha and always busy ~ always working. My sister called me a drill sargent too and I kept up that impossible pace of work and litle play until my body said it had enough and I developed a chronic illness.....Now I KNOW the importance of spending joyous time with God and with my family. Relationships are the most important part of our lives!!Your post is very inspirational and your words cause us to ponder on this passage and what it teaches us.

October 11, 2009 at 11:05 AM

Hi Ginger!
I always feel others think we should be Marthas-- Lifes too short -- Thanks for sharing Have a nice Sunday!

October 11, 2009 at 12:32 PM

I loved it when you wrote.."it's a blouse I wear and not a super woman cape." Now that I'm a grandmother, I can understand how my mother use to get the blues when my toddlers left after visiting and all she saw everywhere was their little handprints on her sliding glass doors. She missed them and not the mess but when we are young we are thinking of only the mess everywhere!

October 11, 2009 at 12:38 PM

I'm afraid I am still a Martha. I can start out as Mary but start to worry and slip back

October 11, 2009 at 3:18 PM

I didn't know you had been a drill sergeant. lol
I think I'm more of a Mary type. I think it may be because my mother was a Martha type. She was always right there "doing" while I thought about it.
Hope you're having a great day.

October 11, 2009 at 3:37 PM

When I was a young, married housewife my nickname was "Ms.Neat" because I was always tidying things up and getting upset when they got messed up! Not anymore though, I'm definitely a "Martha" now and I thank God for it! Great post!


October 11, 2009 at 4:07 PM

Ginger, I think a lot of us can identify with you and Martha! My hubby always says we do need some Marthas too. If we were all Marys, that probably wouldn't be a good thing either. I think he has a point! I think I'm a little bit of both, like Rosel, in that on the day of our Bible Study, I'm rushing around, baking, cleaning, and getting prepared. But once everyone arrives, I'm not serving lunch until the lesson is over.
Your post was very interesting and I thank you fo sharing it. Have a wonderful Sunday!


October 11, 2009 at 4:32 PM

I would be Mary too. Thanks for this post.

October 11, 2009 at 5:49 PM

Thanks for this great reminder to put Jesus and then others above ourselves! Thanks also for visiting my blog today. Have a blessed weeek in the Lord!

October 11, 2009 at 6:17 PM

Amen Sistah!! LOL
Ican so totally relate to this post. I was a Martha, but now it's better and my home is much less stress free and lived in!!!! I love being a Mary these days, Martha still tries to take over every now nd then, but I got her under control lol

Hugz Lorie

October 11, 2009 at 8:41 PM

Great post & really something to think about too! I think I can relate to both!

Hugs to you
Have a blessed week!

October 11, 2009 at 10:21 PM

Sometimes we are both.
A prayer and desire to be like Mary. to always there to listen and enjoy His presence.

Wonderful post. Thank you for sharing Ginger.


October 12, 2009 at 12:17 AM

I think I am a little bit of both, but more toward the Mary side. But when I was younger I was more Martha.Now I know one of the most important things is that people(Family) know that you really love them. Sometimes we do things that we think convey love , like trying to make things perfect, but others just wish we would relax and sit down & enjoy the moment with them.And our personal time with the Lord must come first,and then everything else will fall into place in our lives.
Thanks so much for stopping by and the well wishes
for my Birthday. 8~)
~Myrna Lee

October 12, 2009 at 4:44 AM

Ginger, I have been a Martha over the years too. It's so hard to let go of perfectionism. Somehow, it tends to feel like I'm taking better care of everyone if the house is perfect. Truthfully I sometimes make them crazy. Thank you for the reminder.

October 22, 2009 at 8:13 PM

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